ughhh ang hirap nang situation mo...it's not right to think na kaya kayo nagsasama ay dahil sa daughter mo.. dapat may love pa rin at walang bitterness...kahit pa nawala or na lessen yung love mo for her hindi niya dapat ginawa yun,.. love is what you needed not doubt.. kung nag lolove making nga kayo pero ang iniisip mo naman eh yung guy na nakasiping ng misis mo, hindi yun maganda..if i were you,. let her do the move now.. i mean hayaan mo nman na habulin ka niya :)( ano ba yun habulan na lang ) hehehe...
she felt sorry because her guy has a family too.. pero wag ka kung single yun di kana babalikan nun! i have more stories from my friends, common friends special friends na same lang sayo! hindi ka nag-iisa, pero ano nasaan sila now??? wala rin.... hindi sa against ako sa marriage pero sa panahon ngayon... minsan gantihan na lang ang nangyayari kapag nagkahiwalay,napabayaan at nagka-onsehan, tapos nagkabalikan... haistttt.. wala sa blog na ito ang kasagutan.. comment lang ito okay? mas makakabuti sa inyo talaga na seek God.. He's the only one who can/will help and guide you...(im not saying na hindi kayo nagsisimba ha?) pero it will really help you..Believe in HIM.. corny man pero yun lang talaga ang way.. Good luck! im hoping for positive result..

hahaha parang sinabi mo na hindi ako mabait :P

salamat ms. cristy fermin. heheh! sori ikaw b tlga yan. hahah!

alam mo maraming salamat tlga sa reply mo! i really apr8 it! alam mo i think kailngan ko tlga ng space from her. hirap tlga. ok lng ba humingi ng one last favor. ok lng b humingi ng matinding words of wisdom mo para kayanin ko n umalis d2. konting motivation lang. kc after all, ako n nga niloko pero bkt wala manlang ako gnwa. un lng. para wala nangyari. hayy.. ndi k rin kc alam kng san ako ppunta. altought cguro natatakot ako bka ulitin nya ung gnwa nya pag umalis ako. i think im also not happy with her anymore. it hurts kc tlga. pero everytime i kiss her, i hug her, grabe parang ayaw ko n tlga sya bitawan

no problem.. words of wisdom? wala eh wisdom tooth meron :))
would u mind telling me your age and her? minsan kasi factor yung age sa mga ganyang klase ng problema...
don't disregard God. He will help you believe me..

25 po kme parehas. ung anak po namen 3yrs old. advice po plz!

ok. cant help not to grab my keybaords and say something.. after all you needed all the comments you can get.. Mr. Lovehurts naman.. simple lang naman kung tutuusin yang blema mo.. its all about choices and living with the consequences.. Sino ba nagsabi sa yo na tangappin mo pa rin sya after everthing she'd done? diba ikaw din tumanggap sa kanya? meaning, dapat alam mo na may kasamang sakit, agony, trauma, etc. (pangalanan mo na lahat nga pangit na feelings) yun sa yo.. ngaun, kung hindi kayang ma-compensate or mapantayan nga LOVE mo sa kanya yung lahat ng ATRASO nya sa yo.. then you have to start re-evaluating your previous decision.. (na tinangap mo pa sya).. obsiously ngaun, you're in pain and you have my sympathy, i do. but man, if you think it's not worth it anymore being with her.. then leave her alone.. take ur daughter with you and move on. your just 25 and am sure you have a lot in store pa for you. let her understand what you feel, make her adjust, hindi yung ikaw.. masakit to leave her but eventually makakarecover ka rin. think about ur future and the nest coming years.. kaw na nga may sabi na mukhang di mo pa makakalimutan agad yun kahit after 10 years pa.. so its time to make a choice and GOODLUCK!

ps. yep, i still believe in the power of prayers.

Mr. Lovehurts

Normal lang na tanggaping mo ulit sya, nangangahulugan lang na mahal na mahal mo ung tao. You accepted her again, this doesn't mean na pinapatawad mo lang sya sa nagawa nya sayo, you took the risk so dapat magtiwala ka ulit sa kanya in able for your relationship to work.

Walang kwenta na pinatawad mo sya kung hndi mo aalisin ang pagdududa.
Now, if you will only doubt her, might as well make a decission to break up with her nlng.

Hope this make sense to you and please take time to know what you really feel before making any decissions.

Wag ka mahihiya sa mga sasabihin ng ibang tao anu man ang maging decission mo, you must foloow what your heart says and in the end it will bring you happiness.

Good times :o)

salamat sa mga comments nyo. hope reply kau ulet. tlgang nakakagaan ng loob mag basa ng comments nyo.

d k kc alam kng bkt bigla2 mahal n mahal ko sya ng sobra nung time na iniwan n nya ako. i dont understand my feelings! but before that parang ala n ung love. cguro nga naging kampante ako n d nya kaya gawin un. in my part its hard tlga na ndi ko masumbat sa kanya ung mga nangyari pag medyo mainit ulo ko and sometimes i keep asking paren about him. medyo insecure tlga ako. minsan nga sbi ni wifey nasasakal n daw sya. ang hirap tlga. pkramdam ko 2loy sobra isip bata ko pa tlga. before kc kme mag away and lage namen pinag aawayan. laptop,ps2,psp, cars and etc. all pambata tlga. now nman, i change na pero its hard tlga. pakiramdam ko 2loy nag mature n sya. pakiramdam ko im 25yrs old sya 35 na. dapat cguro ndi ko nalng inalam n may nangyari sa kanya, hayyy!
saka bkt kaya wala ako guts iwan sya?

p.s. do u think guys patulan ko na ung lalaki? alam ko n kc kng sa ppunthan un. nag research ako.

my lovehurts pra skin kung tinanggp mo tlga cya dapt nptawad at bgong simula na kayo. oo mhirap klimutan yung ginwa nya pero wlng mangyyri kung iisipin mo plage yung nagawa nyang mali sayo..mahirap kalimutan lalo n para sayo lalaki ka.dhil ntpakan nya yung ego mo.kaya ka nagiisp ng gnyan.kung ngpromise n yung wife m na hindi n nya uulitin kung ano man yung gnwa nya, trust her.kpg gnwa nya ulit o gumwa ulit cya ng mali then break up with her, bsta sayo yung daughter nyo at mkakamove ka rin im sure..kung love k tlga ng asawa mo hindi n nya uulitin un..i think kung inulit p nya hindi k niya tlga love.dun mo siya hiwalayan.

try nyo kaya mg second honeymoon pra bumalik ang spice ng inyong relationship..yung tipong kayo lng 2, bkasyon, beach something like that pra mkpgusap at maayos ang lhat....im sure mliliwanagan kayo both after nun..

guys, ano b importante sex o love? kc medyo nagkaron kc ako ng insecurity sa kanya. mukang magaling sa kama ung pinatulan ng wifey ko. kc napapansin ko parang minsan may mga pinagagawa sya saken na ndi nman namen gngwa before. tapos minsan lage pa sya nabibitin saken. kaya un badtrip plage. ang bilis ko kc! sympre turn off tlga ska sa part ko sobra ang baba ng tingin ko sa sarili ko everytime it happen. cguro hahanap hanapin n ni misis ung magaling sa kama. un nga rin isa sa mga reason y should i find i new wifey.

life is all about the choices that we make. you can only say that enough is enough until you have done everything within your power and capacity...

LoveHurts, I know very well how you feel. My girlfriend and I are together for 6 years now and we're living together engaged to be married hopefully by next year (financially hoping). Anyway, some years ago, lagi kami nag-aaway and we didn't get along well and we eventually grew apart to the point na nambabae na ako ng ilang beses pero she was still there for me and she forgave me. So it came a time na na-fed up na sya saken and she decided to have an affair with her office mate.
Sobrang tanga ko na hindi ko kagad na-gets yun when there were so many signs. Anyway, I tried to get her back for a couple of months pero she was decided na to stay with the guy. Ilang beses nya pinili yung guy and eventually, I decided to move on and have a new relationship. After a few months, nagkausap ulit kami at nagkamustahan and it lead to us realizing how much we love each other. Single na ulit ako nun and she decided to dump the guy na pinagpalit nya saken and we're now happily engaged.
I know it's hard to accept na may nakasiping na iba yung girl na kasama naten sa buhay especially sa iyo, wife mo yan. Pero what's important is that you see how much she repented for the mistake she did, and her effort to become a better partner to you (just like what my fiancee showed me). You see, sa kamalasmalasan naten e nangyayari din talaga yung ganyan sa relationships. Sucks for us big time dahil lalaki tayo and sobrang sampal sa pagkalalaki naten yang ginawa nila. It takes time to accept it, and heal. Hinding hindi naten makakalimutan yang ginawa nila pero in time, depending on sa pagtanggap nyo sa isa't isa ulit at pagpapatawad, e malalagpasan nyo din yan. If not, don't force it. I'm sure you both can be happy individually with the joy of your child. Hope you can turn that misfortune into a great life experience like I did. Good luck and keep us posted sa development mo sa wife mo. God bless.

lovehurts,

u said it urself... "napabayaan mo un wife mo and ur kid for 2 years... to the point na wala ng sex and hndi mo na siya nitatabihan sa pagtulog...and u even were thinkin that she probably was feeling that u didnt love her anymore" im not tryna justify what she did to u but here's the thing... she wouldnt have done what she did if u made her feel loved right from the very beginning... ur wife lost interest in fixing her self up not because she didnt wanna look beautiful anymore... she took care of ur daughter... lucky u that she gives importance to ur baby.. and that's normal kung inuuna ng nanay ang anak kesa sa sarili... may pagkukulang ka din sa kanya... if u were unhappy na pala sa nangyayari sa inyo why didnt u talk to her? u could have at least let her know how u were feeling... again im not justifying what she did... we all know that what she did is completely wrong... i just want u to realize na kung may naging mali siya, meron ka din naging pagkukulang... now na nangyari na ang lahat ng hndi dapat na nangyari nasa inyo padin if both of u really wanna stick with each other... if u really love her then forgive her and try ur best to forget everything... if she cheats on u again then dats ur queue to leave.. then at least u know that u gave it ur best shot... pareho kau nagkamali ngaun... pero kung lokohin ka pa nya ulit... siya nlng ang pde mo sisihin kasi alam mo sa sarili mo na wala ka na pagkukulang sa kanya... i hope this helps u... also try ninyo seek ng professional help kung tlgng nahihirapan kayo... counseling has helped save a lot of mariages... that's what i heard... also keep god in the center of ur relationship... godbless both of u...

good times :)

and one more thing... there is no point in confronting the other man... ur better than that... magmumuka ka lng stupid and even more desperate... wag ka bumaba sa level niya... alright? :)

salamat tlga sa lahat ng nag ppost! gumagaan tlga loob ko tuwing binabasa ko mga to' ty!

guys, naniniwala ba kau na if ever na i decided to leave my wife na hindi nako magiging masaya kahit kelan at pag sisisihan ko to hangang pag tanda ko. at ibang iba na, d na kagaya ng dati. grabe sobra nwala n tiwala ko sya. parang ayaw ko n sya mag trabho. ang problema career woman pa nman aswa ko.

guys, bkt kaya ang lesson napapasin ko puro saken. kasi ako ung sobrang naapektuhan at nabago na ung lifestyle ko. nalaman ko kng ano ang tama at mali. kng ano ang dapat gawin at hindi. ano kaya lesson sa kanya nung nangyari samen. bkt parang wala? sabi nga nya saken dati ndi nya pinagsisisihan nangyari at ginawa nya. kaya tlgang asar n asar ako.

guys, cge pa comment nman kau ulet. tnx!

wait, is this (PAT) djpat899? just asking hehe..

oist lovehurts tumigil ka na okay? walang magagawang mabuti sayo yan..tama si pat,.
kung hindi sya nagsisisi sa ginawa niya then let her go, ang kapal naman niya.. ewan ko pero its really unacceptable if women cheated on their husband/bf, kahit pa nagkamali ang guys.. ewannnnn basta bad kasi yun...

might as well read some comments here :)

http://motwister.squarespace.com/blog/2009/12/3/can-you-trust-your-current-bfgf-if-heshe-cheated-on-their-ex.html#comments

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guys married n kc kme and we also have one duaghter. pero last night nung nag away kme.. i think cguro mahirap n nga maayos ang gusot n 2. sobra parang d k na sya kilala. hayy. ang hirap kaya humanao ng single n babae pag married k na. bsta ty sa inyo!

Love hurt,

1. Kung mahal mo tlga.. give mo lang ung kaya mo bigay at dont mind kung binabalik ba sau ung pagmamahal.. ganun ang love.. give without taking.. kung may bibigay sau salamat..

2. Iniisip mo ung lalaki nya?! ang tanong ko sau ay pinatawad mo naba si wife mo? learn to forgive her and yourself first.. pag nagawa mo nayon at nagheal na im sure ndi mo naiicipin ung ung lalaki na un.. mas magaling ka dun!

3. May mga pinapagawa sau ung wife mo na dati ndi mo ginawa?! wow! pasalamat ka noh.. at nadagdagan un kaalaman mo! at wag ka mainsecure! learn new trick din para ikaw naman ang mag sabi ng "sige tuwad!".. mag exercise ka para ndi ka weak!! dati ako weak pero now legendary na! hahaha..!!! research lang bro..

4. sa susunod na.. tinatamad na ako..hehe!